Judgment—the Slavery of Oppression
others’ judgments make you feel squirrely inside? Do you feel like running and hiding, defensive
as all get out, reactive, annoyed, defeated?
Do you fold into yourself to hide your Real Self with quiet or numbness and “hope they won’t see you?
Or do you put on a bravado show of what you think those who judge you would hold in high esteem so that you would not
be ostracized to hell?
Now, especially in this past
very Piscean era, I don’t know of anyone who has not squelched their own wild and precious beauty in order to gain scraps
of acceptance and love. After all, even as human children we learned very early that our very survival
lies in conforming to the social laws of the culture around us.
In some ways, that may be beneficial, don’t you suppose? After all, we become “civilized”
is some ways. Imagine never being potty trained or learning to use your “inside voice.”
On the other hand, we get into such a habit of not actually valuing
our true self for just being here on Earth—much less valuing the totally of the miracle that we are in all our most
unique ways. For instance:
“My parents want me to be a doctor, but I want to be a plumber who has time to meditate and understand
philosophy. No one will respect me if I follow my own joy and inclinations.”
have to keep my loving heart hidden so that it won’t ever be dismissed, squashed or denied. So, in
order to be accepted by the larger group, I will join in with their attitudes of separation and anger, and suppress my own
longing to just love, no matter what.”
And fill in your own story here….
Having the courage to take yourself way beyond the oppression of what is expected of you is so very, very huge.
After all, it may thoroughly rock your world—literally! Your old “friends” may
turn away from you, your family may give up on you, old emotional torments may rise to haunt you, seemingly with no recourse
on your part.
But remember, our cage whose bars are
made of other people’s judgments is a form of the Emperor’s new clothes. That is allowing others’
judgments of us to shape the persona that we project to the world, while we remain miserable hiding behind a mask that is
actually our own voluntary participation in that slavery of oppression. We are afraid of being alone or
separated from what we feel will make us whole. Woops! Backwards.
YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ANYMORE!
After all, didn’t Yogi Bhajan in his talk on 11-10-11 www.SoulAnswer.com/aquarian_yb.html tell us to be Who we are—no holds barred? Didn’t he tell us that our true and authentic selves
are really needed in this Aquarian time? What if we actually followed our heart, our bliss?
Now I am not talking about following whims or obsessions, or addictions you understand.
Oh, no. I am talking about the joy that is crying to explode
from your guts. We are looking for that beauty of expression and connection that truly satisfies that most
exquisite place in your Being! We need you, the real YOU because in truth, we all fit together like puzzle
pieces! But if a puzzle piece is missing, as a Whole we are not complete. Everyone is
needed as Who they really are.
Now to explore that purity,
innocence and depth of spontaneity in you that actually brings you sheer, underlying happiness takes real courage to truly
relax, relax, relax into your very personal and expansive Truth—the actual experience of Sat Nam.
Imagine—joy, connection and satisfaction, or grounded “chedi
kala” (uprising spirit) are the actual signs that we are fabulously and purely living from our Soul—our Guru.
That is when we are REAL as we stand for and with that great call that is our Destiny in every regard.
(This is not to be confused with self-righteousness—unadulterated prejudice and all that that entails.)
Once we are truly connected with our own pure depth, our world spins
out of the old confusing, depressed and blocked kaleidoscopic pattern to simply sing, to become joyous and satisfying.
Things may be harder or perhaps easier than before, but definitely happier. Freedom is where you
follow your Soul!
Lots of Love,
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Has a Bigger Ego Than Me!” Yogi Bhajan
June 21, 2011 Summer Solstice
That is what Yogi Bhajan defiantly yelled a few
times at Ladies Camp back in the day! Needless to say, with my spiritual/Christian background, I nearly
fell over. Of course I could feel Yogi Bhajan laughing about the profound effect his words had on me!
Here I had been letting go of my “ego”,
or so I thought, being meek and humble, melting into the background. The result was that I had no projection,
and could not hold any Presence. Yogi Bhajan had a huge ego so that his earthly identity
could hold and project this incredible, Ultimate, Infinite Consciousness! And he did it through his cleared-out
earthly personality, his ego.
when we take a fresh look at this much maligned little word, we find that it has been greatly misinterpreted by our popular
culture! It has come to mean: pride, overbearing self-importance, can’t see beyond
the end your own nose, Me first, no one greater in the Universe or deserving of everything than ME, controlling and manipulative,
self aggrandizement. Well, you get it.
But in fact, that little word “EGO”, which literally means “I” was coined
by Dr. Freud a century ago to identify the organizing principle of the psyche. This ego is a very sophisticated
and important apparatus. It is your identity. When it is malformed because of inappropriate
feedback, especially as a child, or it is broken due to intense early childhood trauma or even past life trauma, the ego cannot
knit together the various facets of the personality very well. It cannot hold thought, projection, strength,
will or carry-though. It disassembles or becomes rigid when faced with challenge. The
replay of subconsciously-stored difficulties crush the ego.
On the other hand, the self aggrandizing ego seems to be the polar opposite way of dealing with a
similarly crippled ego or self identity structure. That is instead of giving up self-power and projection
to hide or disappear, it seeks to stock pile greater and greater power, wealth, fame and so on to make up for its inadequacy.
These are both sides of the same coin—the dysfunctional ego.
Which of us doesn’t have to grapple with our own ego in some way? Certainly,
we can’t harshly judge this process in ourselves or others because our own Souls have put these challenges in our path
for the sake of solving/healing them to develop particular gems of strength, ability and wisdom within our transformed ego.
(For more explanation of this process, please go to www.SoulAnswer.com/karma.html).
I found a wonderful clue in understanding this when I asked my dear friend, Ek Ong Kaar Kaur, who
is also on our Soul Answer faculty about a word that was translated as “ego” in the Siri Guru Granth Sahib, the
Sikh scriptures. First she humbly blessed that old translation! Then she noted that
the word that is pronounced “haumay” actually means the small me, or mine—that which I see as my own small
self or belonging to me. Everything is wrapped around ME—whether aggrandized or small.
It is that identity process which keeps me separate from the “ALL in all”. “If
you can’t see God in all, you can’t see God at all.” Yogi Bhajan’s well-known quote.
So, in fact, he was demonstrating an enormously
huge, well knitted, organizing principle of ego or self knowledge that is so neutral and clear that it could act as the most
strong, cohesive container and pipe line to project the unbounded Infinite Consciousness that flowed through him—no
holds barred. This is an ego that is Infinitely subtle, powerful, radiant, graceful, compassionate and
accurate. And by his personal ego’s perpetual bowing to that Infinity, it becomes innately humble—not
to humans, their judgments or to cultural norms, but to the Great Consciousness of All that is ever seeking to powerfully
create anew at every moment.
a sophisticated balancing act it is to heal from that which keeps us either small or self important—bouncing back and
forth between them, fully clearing then re-weaving together our earthly ego to project our Divine Identity. As
you know, Yogi Bhajan certainly had a very distinct and strong personality which arises from the ego! And
he told us time and again that the spiritual path is about changing our identity, our ego—not killing it.
Here is yet another view of that process.
Who is the “I”? And WHO are you—really? This
is where surrender of the small “me” ego comes in to accept the freedom and flow of the Great Ego or Great “I”.
I know you are up to it, Dear! Take a chance, and “consciously become conscious of your Consciousness”
as Yogi Bhajan often instructed!
bring this Consciousness into your own being, please do this meditation to let “Thou” prevail. Go
to www.SoulAnswer.com/let_thou_prevail.html .
Siri-Gian Khalsa, SoulAnswer.com, 2011
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We Are So Happy You Are Here!
Nivember 7, 2016 & May 31, 2011
are born into a family, your own Soul picked through all of your accumulated karmas and put together a game plan for what
you wanted to heal, learn, solve and elevate in this lifetime. Then It/you picked out all the circumstances
that you would need to accomplish that—which included choosing your parents, where you would be born, all of your relatives
and so on. True!
So, life is meant
to give us a whole heap of opportunities to tackle because by solving them we can get back to the reality of Who we are—REALLY
are, that is. To create this drama, this “game” of life, everyone gets thrown a “few”
curves, so to speak. How to deal with them is always our choice.
In leading healing with so many people, it has become evident to me that when we, as these fresh little Souls come
into this wondrous new body intrinsically know Who we are. The problem is that no one else knows Who we
are, and neither do they know Who they are.
Consequently, we often are not given the feedback of our purity, our preciousness, our Infinity. As
a tiny infant, perhaps no one consciously feels our heart and returns that in kind. Our parents are not
always happy to have us around; people may deny what we intrinsically know. The result is that we put that
cloak of disbelief over Who we know ourselves to be.
To an infant or a child, a parent is their image of God, their ultimate authority on what is true or not true.
So, if my parent gives me any indication--any feedback that I am not the Infinity, or any rejection that I interpret
as “perhaps it wasn’t really a great idea that I came to Earth after all,” then as the child I take on my
parent’s voice that turns into self-depreciation, not being worthy of being here on Earth, “I am intrinsically
worthy of rejection, I must not KNOW after all,” and so on.
These are the falsehoods that we sign up for on our karmic game board. Then we subliminally believe
them and repeat them to ourselves. Yikes!
So you can see how they play out in your own life! Not so pretty, actually. And
yet it is by feedback that we humans seem to accept what is true or not true about most things, especially ourselves, even
if they are out and out lies.
But, the good news is
that we can chuck these old enforced identities. If we make that choice, we are not finally doomed to live
that inherited identity. We can actually opt for Who we really are!
Yogi Bhajan told us over and over that the spiritual quest is to change our identity.
This is what we are talking about. He said that Jesus could become who he was because his mom let
him know over and over again that his dad was God. He had no duality at all about his identity.
Imagine if you knew in your very bones, that you had inherited the very
genes and jobs of your truly divine mom and dad—God!
what? You did!
just that nobody ever deeply and truly told you that’s Who you are. Nobody reinforced that, and no
one led you to understand that is also the case with everyone else in your whole God Family—that would be everyone who
has ever, or who will ever visit Earth in a human body!
Remember, knowing that all are God doesn’t diminish you, but actually supports your ability to rise to your
true identity. Humans don’t seem to like to be different, rather we like to “fit in.”
Therefore, understanding that we are all in the same Great Boat, the God Boat can be a great comfort.
So, please sit back and allow yourself to soak in the following welcome
to Earth. Let yourself relax, let yourself heal. Forgive yourself and others for not welcoming you with
feedback that is True. And be grateful for the great opportunity to transform to this realization of Who
you are so that you could collect all the more wonderful abilities and wisdom that result from that healing of identity.
Love your self/Self! Just
by your Being, you are more than worthy of that unending love from yourself and your Divine Parents—both giving and
receiving. So simple, so profound. That is Who you are!
Siri-Gian Khalsa, SoulAnswer.com, 2011
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WELCOME TO EARTH!
My Very Sweet One,
We are so happy that you are here with us! We have
been waiting for you so long. Our hearts have been feeling you, loving you, calling you and we are exquisitely
happy that you have chosen to be with us here on Earth.
see the brilliant Light that shines through your eyes. We feel the expansiveness of your projection.
As we bond with you, we know that you are the piece that completes this incredible mosaic of our joined lives.
We sink into the joy of simply being here with
you, Dear One. We are of one heart, and having your heart with us amplifies the gorgeous Light of Who we
all are as a Divine Family. We love having you here with us.
How precious you are, Sweet One! We laugh with your jokes and games. We cry
with your losses, knowing all the time that we never lose you, nor is anything lost, just hidden for a bit. You
abide in our hearts as we do in yours.
We love and respect
your wisdom, your knowing in every shape that it takes. We enjoy you.
You are so brilliant in your great uniqueness. We look forward to watching
your most special gifts and transformations develop as you are here with us. You are a very precious flower
opening to the Sun. We cherish every stage of your opening.
We dance with you, we sing your song of down-to-earth greatness in the smallest, and seemingly mundane things, in
your creativity and in your expansion. And we support your greatness in every way that you choose.
Remember, stumbles are actually your most perfect learning steps to brilliance. We are here with
you, shoulder to shoulder, appreciating and supporting your courageous journey of just being here!
If you fly, we join you in free bliss. We invite
you to be all that you are destined to be, and we bow to all.
We are here with you as One! Not undifferentiated or all mushed together, but as a fully valued
unique aspect of our integrated whole. We love you, we need you. We cherish who you
are in this life and body—no matter what. And we see the Truth of Who you really are—the greatness
beyond limits, beyond the sun. You are, YOU ARE! Thank you for joining us on Earth,
All Love in Divine,
Your Very Divine Parents!
Copyright Siri-Gian Khalsa, SoulAnswer.com, 2011
Strengthen Your Ego!
November 9, 2010
Yes! That’s what I said, “Strengthen
Your Ego!” I even heard Yogi Bhajan forcefully proclaim a number of times, “Nobody has a bigger
ego than ME!”
Ego is the profound identification of who you are here on Earth. It enables you to project, to
be present, to connect with yourself, with others, with your life. It is an actual energetic apparatus
that functions as our emissary here on Earth whose occupation is to feel, know, remember and understand our own experiences.
It includes our thinking mind, emotions, habits and memories. Ego doing its job allows us to produce,
to think, to relate and personally comprehend, to evolve. It is charged with protecting and promoting us
here. It is very precious and absolutely necessary to living a full life. And this essential
thread of our ego seems to move us through our many lives here on planet Earth. I often call it our “everyday
Now, it is the weak, unnourished, needy, unconnected
ego—concept of “little me” wanting desperately to be “big me” that gets us into so much hot
water. To compensate for itself, this little ego can rare up huge to conjure up its own importance, its
desperate need to be seen, heard and acknowledged by fiercely judging, looking down on others, angry, demeaning, manipulating
and calculating to have its own way, demanding, accusing, throwing tantrums, declaring that its endless needs be met by others,
aggrandizing itself, hoarding, sucking in money, stuff, style and so on. This is what we might normally
call “ego” or obsessively huge ego. But in fact, it is a very wobbly ego that goes haywire
because it can’t hold the real essence of Who we are!
the other hand, many of us have operated with the opposite wobbly ego that truly believes that it is incapable, that it is
insecure, not worthy or worthwhile or that it is shameful, that it could never amount to much, that it could never be seen,
heard or acknowledged, that it cannot believe in itself or its fine gifts, and its reactions are generally inappropriate.
It feels squashed and lonely and believes deep down that this is simply its lot in life. It may
also feel chaotic and shattered because it has been so violated, broken, torn apart and abandoned that this ego apparatus
cannot ever be fully knit back together again.
And the amazing thing is that our broken and wobbly ego can fluctuate lightening quick between the aggrandizement
and the lost and broken, because is trying its best to compensate for itself. Those are all functions of
the weak and wobbly ego—no matter how thunderously it may express itself.
But here is the real kicker! Remember
that we get what we send out for? First, in terms of both quantum physics and yogic understanding, the
actual information or vibration of our subconscious thoughts create or bring to us what we are projecting—whether we
perceive them as poopy or wonderful. And on the other hand we interpret everything that
occurs in our life through our own ego’s prism!
Consequently, if someone would say or do something against us, our weak ego
might interpret that as putting us down where we deserve to be. Or a wobbly ego may see that action as
mean and calling for us to retaliate in kind. The habit of being a victim can cause every interaction—even
kind and helpful interactions to be interpreted as expressions of their victimizer. It is often by this
habit of perception that a victim can turn everyone and everything into their victimizer, no matter what the real situation
This weak and wobbly ego pulls
us into habits of real, penetrating and sometimes unbearable pain. Then often we try to switch off that
pain by escaping to addictions—alcohol, drugs, shopping, sex, work, intellectualization—you name it!
But if our ego is genuinely, softly powerful
enough to be centered, cohesive and neutral, which is fully open and aware, that allows us to comprehend the actual truth
of the whole situation, which is that the other person is having a genuine problem with their own wobbly ego.
So, in response, let’s throw some healing energy their way, while we appropriately protect ourselves and others
from their wobbly projection—be that physical, psychological or energetic.
SO, WHAT THE HECK IS A STRONG EGO?
Well, a truly strong ego is one that is unflappable, not because it is tight
and clinching its teeth, but because it is truly relaxed, in pure neutrality, and humble to its Soul. A
strong ego is totally grounded to enable it to hold the very genuine expansive “space” of Soul (or God, or Guru,
or grace, or the Christ presence) that is available at every nanosecond. A truly strong ego can stay centered
and neutral no matter what is happening. A strong ego stays present and true to the messages from its own
Real Self, its Soul, and follows them explicitly, without hesitation, but in full flow!
A strong ego is essentially kind and loving—although not
in any mushy way. It is without malice but can stay fierce to fight to the death if that is Soul’s
direction. I am always reminded of Guru Gobind Singh shooting arrows tipped with gold so that his dead
opponent’s family could bury their member.
A strong ego implicitly calls on its Soul’s guidance. Your strong ego is
actually present in the expanded “space” of your Soul and moves or dances with Soul’s direction.
I have heard that when Guru Dev Singh was massaging Yogi Bhajan’s feet, he found the master to be entirely neutral—not
numb, but fully present, expanded and balanced. And then when Yogi Bhajan did his work—yelling hellfire
and brimstone at a student so that he could energetically work with the student, Guru Dev Singh still found that Yogi Bhajan’s
energy was unchanged. This is a strong ego.
A strong ego will not react because reacting is no longer in its habit pattern. But
it will flow with Soul’s extraordinary guidance. It will trust Soul, rather than making all the final
decisions without the aid of Infinite Consciousness on its side. A strong ego is not bound by societal
norms or institutional dictates because it expresses Soul’s pure creativity and fully pertinent Truth in every moment.
Your strong ego is open to the magic of allowing
Soul to rearrange, seemingly evaporate challenging situations for the betterment of all concerned. A strong
ego will allow and serve the adventure that Soul leads it to, remaining engaged in its profound and continuous healing process
that allows it to become even stronger/softer/more flowing in its alignment with Soul. The Soul’s
goals are the goals of the strong ego.
HOW DO WE GET A WEAK AND WOBBLY EGO?
Of course, we take on a weak and wobbly ego for the purpose of growth, abilities and wisdom that we
gain when we finally straighten it out, heal it, that is. Read more on this process at www.SoulAnswer.com/karma.html .
to the point, our egos usually get this way in response to the experiences—whether traumatic or grand that we have had
in past lifetimes. Then we—as our Soul choose parents, environments, situations (karmas) that will
provoke similar reactions from us in this lifetime so we can finally, straighten out our ego—that which holds our Consciousness
in this lifetime. What a system, eh?
So, if we have had parents or others who demeaned us, shamed us, refused to recognize the great Soul
that flows through us, abandoned or abused us, did not protect or inspire us, or caused us great trauma, this definitely mangles
the developing ego of the sensitive, dependent and impressionable child. It robs us of the power and self-recognition
of a strong ego. It cripples us in sometimes outrageous ways.
But now, Dear Egos is the time to forgive them and the part that they have
played in our life’s drama. After all, we, as our most profound Consciousness sought them out to
provide the stuff of our life’s challenges—in fact to become our ego’s muscle building equipment where can
train to become truly strong!
DO WE GET A STRONG EGO?
start by becoming our own parents! Our actual parents’ job is over, and now it is time for us to
take charge of our own development rather than remaining a victim of it! That is we become totally conscious
so that if something is not going right in our life and it is our parent’s voice that leads us down the road of difficult
reactions, it is time for that part of ourselves that is often called the Witness or the Will to coolly and objectively look
the situation over, and determine to change the old embedded habits.
It means fully recognizing yourself as essentially good and
worthwhile—no matter what has happened. Forgiving yourself and others profoundly in the depth of
your consciousness, and loving, loving, loving your self—your wobbly ego even though it trips itself up a lot like a
precious little child. And, of course love your Soul Self, looking to Soul for the extraordinary love and
help that is present for you always. You don’t have to earn it, you know. It is
just there for you all of the time! Accepting that and making space for Soul to come through at every moment
is the “Path”!
course of action could begin with something as simple as initiating long, deep breathing when we feel under attack or at a
loss, which then allows our emotions and mind to unlock so that we can go to neutral and deal unobstructed with the situation.
What an incredible difference that makes, believe me.
Doing any kind of Kundalini Yoga and meditation slices through those energetic knots.
It turns them inside out, heals them and helps you create a platform of Soul’s wisdom for your strengthening,
balance and lighthearted ego. You know my favorite transformational mantra is Gobinday, Mukunday….
www.SoulAnswer.com/gobinde.html . And for lots more, go to www.SoulAnswer.com/kriyas.html .
process includes not taking all of your reactions so seriously. That is loosening up those white knuckles
that have been holding so tightly onto some reaction of righteousness, or shame, or anger, or whatever it is that consumes
you so that you cannot lightly and powerfully flow with your “space” of Soul.
Strengthening your ego to continuously and calmly project your very
Soul, your God Self may sometimes be a challenge, but what else is there to do but live in perpetual misery and insecurity?
This journey is the greatest one there could ever be! Strong, flowing ego. Yummm!
Lots of Love,
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You Addicted to Your Head?
Oct. 12, 2010
have a funny notion that to carry out our daily life we need to rely on thinking—that is thinking really hard, being
in our head!
follow the current cultural format of stress, falling into confusion, judging from shortsighted standards, getting really
worried, losing our bearings, and so on. That is living from our head. Of course this
is the way of our post-modern world that we share. All this churning just goes along with the territory.
Yet we yearn for another way, but….. Do we actually have the COURAGE to try another way?
Perhaps we connect with God, or Soul or Whatever
now and again to feel better. Then we just go roaring back into the lion’s den of our daily life.
After all, that’s the “responsible” way.
That is how we take refuge in our head. What an oxymoron*! We
give ourselves over entirely to trying to figure it out, falling into the traps of believing that we really don’t have
any other solution. We think ourselves to death!
That is not to say that thinking is bad. No, thinking is a God-given talent.
But when our addiction to being in our head consistently avoids our most simple, but most incredibly accurate and productive
answers, along with the most impeccable time scheduling available to us, why do we keep our head in charge when there is another,
most reliable way? Why are we addicted to our full-on thinking, thinking, thinking,
worry, worry, worry as our default setting? After all, that deflects us from ease, from flow, from the
greatest and most appropriate productivity imaginable! True!
But changing over from head in charge to actually putting God, or Soul or
Whatever in charge actually takes an incredible amount of trust. “What if I follow God’s direction
but my life goes bust because God just doesn’t get what I am doing down here on Earth?” “How
could Soul know my job better than I do?” “What if I am late and stressed in getting ready
for a dinner party, but my child is screaming, I can’t just drop everything and do something else that God tells me
to do!” Hmm….
Here we are, following our spiritual paths, diligently doing our sadhana (daily spiritual practice).
And then during the rest of the day, we do our best to do the right thing according to our head—taking directions
from head, from habits of thinking, worrying and lots more. Yikes! Now, that is a real
There actually is
something better, you know, and it is available all the time. That is listening to your own Soul, your
own God Self that actually does get it all! You may find that if you listen to your own Soul, AND FOLLOW
IT, which is the real key—that you may actually slip into ease. You may find that your patterns of
defeat change, your prosperity flows. You may find that your time schedule is working out to the last minute
miraculously, and that amazingly creative solutions arise. And if you are diligent about your listening
and your trusting Soul, you may find that your life is changing for the better in ways that you never, ever could have predicted
or brought about simply by following your head.
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Lots of Love,
*Oxymoron: A phrase in which two words of
contradictory meaning are used together for special effect, e.g. "wise fool" or "legal murder".
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NEED A LITTLE LOVE?
If you knew Who you are,
and you knew the
ability of your own words to heal or destroy,
you would never, ever talk ugly
especially to yourself!
How many times have you wished, hoped, prayed for support and love?
How many of us have suffered because our parents didn't tell us how special we are? And still we are left longing for
that incredible momentum that comes from affirmation and encouragement from someone who is important to us--especially from
a parent who has such a formative influence on our self-image. Even a perfect stranger can lighten our day to give us
faith in ourselves and courage to go beyond what we thought were our limits.
When you talk to any child--especially if they are yours, or when you communicate with any of your loved ones in
such a way that they are inspired and feel cared for from your very heart, incredible nourishment flows to them! As
humans, human feedback as expressions of confidence and love pour into us to help create that strong foundation of self-confidence
So, just think about how you have talked with those
who are so close to you in the last 24 hours. Were you kind and supportive, or were you disdainful, judging, harsh,
stressed, absent and so on?
Did your tone and your words match the love
that you would want for them? Did you express the love, gratitude and support for them that you would like to have for
yourself? And did you actually express the greatness, kindness and coziness of just Who you are? That can't happen
from your mind, you know. That's just too fragile and changeable to be truly relied upon for this.
But if you choose, you can do Heart Breath as you speak. That is, do long deep breathing through
your nose and from your belly, but on the exhale feel as though the breath is coming out of your heart center. Once
you get that, it feels as though the sound vibration of your actual words is flowing from your heart along with your breath.
Settle into it. Give your head time off while you extend your cozy communication, both voice and content from your heart
center--no joke. Try this as an experiment.
I bet that you will
then find that the actual vibration of your words, as well as their meaning will heal in ways that you have never experienced.
Give over to this heart energy, succumb to it, relax in it! Let yourself fully bathe in this breath as you talk on any
subject! Remember, whatever the content of your onversation--even sports scores, you are always talking from your heart
to their heart.
And when you do, watch what happens to your interactions
with your love-hungry loved ones, your harried friends, your gnarly co-workers, your grizzly boss, annoying drivers, pinched
customers, and whomever else can you try this on.
Now don't just
try it for a second and quit. Keep up this process for your whole conversation, the whole time you are together.
Then make notes about what you might have previously expected from your encounter. Then contrast what actually did occur
when you were doing just this little thing. Experiment with it!
now, for the BIG ONE!
Relax into your heart breath.
Give your head and emotions a break and talk to your own self in this same way! Don't get stuck saying this is silly.
Instead, just fully relax into your heart. Ask your vigilant inner critic to move over for a while. Then just
let your breath from your heart flow. Allow this great and spontaneous Voice to flow through you as the expression,
the outflow of your own heart and then fully receive it, embrace it. Feel the love that is offered to you within you.
Relax into it like a delicious bubble bath.
This is yours, you know!
This is your own True Self, your own Sat Nam giving you all that you need and want--healing you. All you have to do
is to relax to receive it. Then you can really know Who you are--way beyond what your parents or the world ever told
you. You are incredibly great, Dear One! Simply allow your own cozy greatness to be loved by You while you let
the old heart ache drop.
You are Precious! You are loved!
Believe it and feel it now!
Lots of Love,
Copyright Siri-Gian Khalsa, www.SoulAnswer.com 2010
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Give it ALL up? What? What?
June 22, 2010
Can you imagine what a
simple little word non-attachment is? But it is everything!
Everything that you thought was yours, your responsibilities, your desires and wants--give it all to the Almighty!
Retain nothing for yourself. Your job, money, family, friends, matters of the heart, life, death and everything
in between! Yikes!
Then you just act as
steward of everything that flows through your life. You are the steward for all the Almighty's possessions,
processes, interactions--everything, all that stuff that used to be YOURS! Then you realize that everything in your
life belongs to God, and you are just serving, stewarding everything that comes through you. That cozy, dynamic Universal
actualizer is in charge, not you!
But the funny thing is that when you do that, you are not
opting out of your life! Rather you become much more engaged, loving, relaxed and joyful!
I am not suggesting that you transfer your property, or give up your job or
your family. The Universe has given you all that for incredible reasons. As you do this process, your life
may actually seem to be no different to others, except that you become peaceful and happy. But what happens when you give over ownership of all that you thought was yours is that you don't get stressed
by over-responsibility. You understand that there is a greater plan occurring and you are a vital player, a server in
that, and you are at ease with it all. Your life is no longer small, and you are no longer alone.
things change--that is your job, your home, your income, your friends and family and so on, you understand that you
are simply serving God's bigger plan and you are open to the bigger adventure. Change is inevitable. You stay
on the easy alert to see what will happen next and to fully, gracefully handle it all, fully participate with ease,
with constant direction and support. Stay grounded and stay tuned-in.
Since you are serving the greatest Intelligence there could
be--that which has the really BIG plan, you trust that everything that happens is for your greatest good. Pure and simple!
You are simply there, in the middle of "your" life to be solidly present, to stay neutral yet fully engaged, to
listen/feel/realize/know intently, and to support whatever the Almighty sends your way.
That is how you serve
your Life, rather than trying to make your life serve you!
That switch of attitude produces such a lightness, such a flow, such an uplifted spirit--"cherdi kala"!
You realize that the heavy stuff that gets chunked down in your path that used to cramp you up, now is such an opportunity
to whole-heartedly learn, to grow and to heal deeply. As you "flow" with it, all unfolds. And the funny
thing is that you get the great goods--that is more patience, a wider view of things, giving up old anger and insecurity that
you really don't need, and so on!
You feel the momentum to expand beyond what you thought
were your limits as you are called to serve in greater and greater ways. You become grateful for all that flows through
your life. With that freedom, everything is allowed to grow more and more abundant, because your fear of loss doesn't
hold your flow back.
Flow is a kind of timelessness in which you are moving, thinking, talking, planning, accomplishing as you are led by your Soul. It's kind of a feeling,
being moved by unseen hands, a magnetizing of the heart and mind in a certain direction, a sense of knowing, or even real
words. There is such a lightness to it, such a power to it, and believe it or not, you get much more done when in this flow
because you just "do" it without stressing over it.
What you accomplish happens
through you, without worrying,or getting uptight. Things happen or come to you synergistically, magically. You
remain humble to becoming what you are called to do or be--no matter how huge or seemingly insignificant.
It is actually fun, sort of like surfing! And the most amazing thing is that when you
give the whole process and outcome over to Soul, and you just steadfastly keep up with your part, you complete your project
right down to the minute of the deadline! It is a most exquisite dance with the Almighty!
Now by "your part," we're talking about trusting what you are given,
and doing, saying, accomplishing, etc. the job that is given to you. You remain in "shuniya"--neutral, "suniai"--listening
to Soul, "mannai"--trusting Soul, and following Its direction, dancing and singing in the lightness of carrying
out even the heaviest of tasks. You keep your heart flowing. And you consciously stay balanced in all
ways to keep yourself in optimum condition so that you can keep up. Then you are present to dance your part, play
Now, two-way communication is also a big part of this
relationship. That is your giving input or suggesting to the Almighty what you feel would be good to happen,
or what you believe would work, and so on. It is a kind of free partnership. This is contributing "intention,"
a vital aspect of creating with the God energies. This is really a two-way partnership, you know!
But no matter how big or small your intention is, you still freely give it all back to the "Boss,"
the Universe to put it all in action--including carrying out the direction that you get in return. And you might be
surprised at how the manifestation of that intention comes back to you, or how you need to let go of some ideas or perceptions or just plain stuff so the channels
of flow can open.
Then you find that giving up that old stuff is just what you needed
to do so that you can flow with the new, expanded and much more appropriate and exciting stuff. It is just an amazing
minute by minute adventure of the Indiana Jones sort. So, it's all important to stay alert, free, neutral,
balanced and tuned-in to stay in that Union, that cozy and dynamic Partnership!
And the most extraordinary thing is, that is what we call prosperity! That buoyant spirit, unlocking the
flow of goods, money, opportunity, growth, accomplishment, kindness, love and friendship--connections of heart that come racing
That's because when you give over entirely to your Soul, to
the Great Consciousness you are no longer holding onto what you think "should be," but rather flowing with "what
is," and realizing that is actually the very best for you, no matter what you might have deeply
held in the past! You are gifted back to play with more than you could possibly have expected.
And you have
the very real experience of being totally connected and supported.
But the kick is that holding that prosperity tight, owning
it as MINE, using it to support your security, or perhaps using it to make you feel as though you are finally getting
the chance to be recognized or getting what you deserve, or holding onto expectations of "what you want", or making
judgment on what is happening--whether good or bad, as opposed to discerning the Truth--all that actually turns off the flow,
and life becomes a struggle again. True!
Instead, you are grateful at every moment that you are able to most humbly serve your Life
as well as those who are served by the Life you contribute, no matter what. And you are grateful that you are fully
engaged in the Almighty's incredible flow--like cool, clear, sparkling water flowing through your hands, just enjoying
it all in the wonder of the dance! You might like to try it!
You can either
do this all at once, or you can do it in steps, gingerly testing it over and over again over time until it becomes
a natural habit. Either way is fine, as long as you stay truly grounded and centered. Do your sadhana, your mantras
and your banis (daily prayers). They will impeccably support your transformation to this peace, your Destiny.
You can do it. I am sure of that!
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Lots of Love,
Khalsa, SoulAnswer.com, 2010
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